So, earlier this year, a friend of mine suggested I join a dating site for “practice”.
And, just shy of nine months later, I have broken down and joined one.
It was a bit of a tough decision. Ever since the early days of online dating, I have been DEAD SET against joining one. And you can bet I have been judgy about it.
I was – and still am – a huge snob because I like fan of The Organic Meeting – hanging out with people at house parties, social functions, sitting at pubs, on patios, whatever.
But it took hearing from friends about someone who is going through something similar, to make me realize that I need to get off the Couch of Complacency and actually explore the other side of singledom.
So after crawling out of bed Saturday afternoon, and puttering around for a couple of hours … I sucked it up, went to the Web site my friend recommended, and created my profile by early evening.
In the space of 16 hours, five people have e-mailed me – the first, a mere 20 minutes after I finished my profile.
It’s a bit overwhelming for me, to say the least – trying to keep up with all the e-mail correspondence, gauging whether or not to e-mail them through personal e-mail, and what not.
I’m also just trying to get comfortable with putting myself out there and answering questions asked by complete strangers. I keep having to tell myself, they’re just questions, they’re just trying to get a sense of who I am.
(And of course, also telling myself, stop judging their poor spelling and sentence structure – it’s the person behind the effort that counts.)
One guy I’ve been e-mailing actually asked me at one point, “Are you single?” (I’m pretty sure I selected “Single” on my profile … Hoo, boy.)
I mean, it’s only in the preliminary stages. For all I know, I could have a coffee date at the end of the week.
I am also trying to prepare myself mentally for going on dates with people I may not mesh with.
I just want to go at a not-so-breakneck pace. Unlike some of the people on this site, I’m not going partner/spouse-shopping.
Perhaps I’ll meet someone cool in the process.
Or maybe it’s just good practice for when the person I really want to get to know, is finally free and clear … whomever that may be.