This past weekend, I got a Facebook e-mail from a friend of mine I’d recently seen about three weekends ago.
Turns out he was having an “all contents sale” – selling everything in his house because, he said, “I can’t take it with me!”
He’s not redecorating. He’s moving to London – for a woman he met only recently.
Shortly after I returned from Spain, in September, my friend and a buddy of his went to Spain with a Contiki tour. From what I could piece together, he met this girl – who happens to be from London – and they immediately clicked.
Shortly after returning, he was on a plane to London to see her about two weeks later.
Last month, he had a bunch of people over to hang out and meet his new lady. His friend (also a friend and I) jokingly bet over whether or not he’d move to London for her. He said yes. I said no.
(He also bet me $200. I said he was out of his mind, but that I still thought I was right.)
Maybe I didn’t believe he’d do it so quickly, because I remember blinking hard after reading the e-mail that he was selling all his stuff.
I understand we should all take chances in life … that taking the risk is sometimes better than not doing so at all.
And when you really feel a connection with someone – stronger than any you’ve ever felt for anyone else – then you want to be as close to them as you can.
And I can understand how excruciatingly difficult a trans-Atlantic relationship could be. I don’t think I could do it, because of the emotional toll on both people.
But after only two months?
I could understand if they’d been in this relationship for a year … nay, even six months. But two? It just seems a bit rash, considering all the things he has to change to be with this woman …
Sell his house. Find a new job. Do the paperwork to be able to work over there. Completely readjust.
I know, I know. I’m old-fashioned and narrow-minded (though I don’t mean to be). And it’s not my life, it’s his. And what if he doesn’t take the risk? Then he’d be asking “What if?” for the rest of his life.
I just hope that it all works in his favour – and that it doesn’t end in heartache.